If your ex-partner says she’s not going to let you have any contact with your children, one of the most distressing things that can happen to you. There may be several reasons behind her decision, but somehow they’re irrelevant; you want to be able to spend time with your kids. So what can you do to change the situation?
First, it helps to have a clear understanding of what mediation is and what it can do for you.
The benefits of working out child visitation issues are to try and talk to your spouse about your visitation rights. If you approach the problem calmly and logically, you may be able to come to a truce with your ex-spouse, at least concerning visitation, without having to go back to court.
The mediator must also be able to handle every type of situation with ease. That is not as easy as it sounds because not all cases are the same. Different locations call for different approaches, and they call for different results when they are all resolved. Therefore, when talking about mediation, the mediator should be able to speak of the situation effectively. He or she should be able to explain and present the case in a way that makes sense to the child. There are several ways in which the mediator can do this.
One example is through guided mediation. This is when the child and parent can watch video clips and listen to guided mediation from the mediator. These video clips and audio files can be accompanied by words that are not obvious and translate to the child’s understanding. There are many other methods of doing this, and it is something that the mediator and the child will be able to figure out. The more time that is spent on this type of mediation, the more successfully the child will grasp the fact that the mediator is speaking to them. The child will be able to feel that the mediator is in control of the situation.
Also, the types of mediation the child is involved in will help in the process. These include psychotherapy, therapy, anger management, issues concerning communication, and divorce mediation. Of course, most of these methods will require some preparation and training before the mediation takes place. Some mediation sessions are needed to be completed and worked out in advance.
The goals of these types of mediation are to provide a safe space for the child and the parents to work through problems and to resolve them. This is what people generally refer to as catharsis. Once the essential points have been made and the progress made, then the two people involved will be able to determine what the outcome will be. If there is no resolution, then the issue will be considered resolved, and it will not be brought up again.
The outcome of this type of mediation depends on how both parents treat the child and what he or she learns about their childhood and their relationship with the parents. So the child will become the focus of the entire process and the outcome will be determined by how the child is handled.
Choosing a child custody arrangement, separation, or divorce is the most critical decision that you will make in your life. You want to make the right choice for your children and yourself.
(SCM have also given guidance on what is expected of parents in this situation).
Some of the factors that you should consider when making your child custody arrangements, separation or divorce include: what are your views on joint custody? Do you want an open or closed custody agreement? If you want a full custody arrangement, you should not be afraid to speak out about it with the custodial parent or parents. It is widespread for parents to disagree about custody arrangements.
Be aware that a divorce law that was written 30 years ago can be very confusing. The truth is that when divorce laws are amended, they usually affect each party’s legal rights in a specific way. Joint physical custody means that the child spends equal time with both parents. If there is any conflict over who has physical custody of the child, the court will decide based on how much the parents have spent on education, health care, etc.
If you decide to go with joint physical custody, you are allowed to spend time with the child if your partner is going on a business trip or travelling. The arrangement allows the custodial parent to be with the child and assists the other parent when needed.
Full custody means that one parent has complete control over the child while the other parent has no contact with the child. Most joint physical custody arrangements include comprehensive care. The custodial parent can gain sole physical custody if one parent is unwilling to share the time with the child. The other parent has rights as well. The other parent may be able to petition the court to have the children removed from the home when the other parent is abusive or physically abusive to the child. The same rules apply to children who live in same-sex relationships. Same-sex couples have the equal rights as heterosexual couples in court cases and visitation cases.
You also have the right to determine the visitation schedule that is going to work best for you and your children. Again, joint physical custody can be used to get around the problem of the custodial parent not wanting the custody arrangements or laws changed to their advantage.
Visitation rights also come into play when the parents agree to share custody. Visitation rights are going to be determined by the laws of the state where the child resides.
The best decision is always going to be the one that you can make on your own. Child custody arrangements, separation or divorce, is something that you want to prepare for your family, so take your time, don’t rush it and always seek legal advice before you decide your child custody arrangements, separation or divorce.